Hey Mommas… you may be reading the title of this blog, The Ice Cream Dance, and thinking has Caprise been spending too much time in the sun? She’s overheated.
Thankfully I have been fortunate to be safely tucked away in spaces with working A/C as the Midwest (my home) and just like much of you is getting hit with heat. I’m not complaining though. While I live in the land of ice and snow, I love not having to wear shoes or layers.
But…. I am going way off topic here. Kinda of. Maybe not.
We here at Working Single Mom do our best to remind you to take care of yourself.
That includes finding your happy. I will be honest, there was a time I way over thought that and of course answered it immediately with a “if G is happy I’m happy.”
But there is also a reason why there are quotes about if Mom isn’t happy no one is happy.
I believe that. I’m not saying hide your sad. Never. If there is anything I’m learning from my quickly maturing daughter G, it helps her to know if I’m stressed or sad. Case in point we had a morning planned and right before we left I got a pretty important email from work. It stressed me out, I told G. Handled it and we moved on with our morning.
She was elated I told her what was up and told me so. A few months ago I would have been a grumpy troll and put a damper on our morning trying to not only deal with the work emergency but hide my stress from G.
She’s 12, while she can’t handle everything she can handle more than I give her credit for.
And yes for the record she is my happy.
So are some other things and I’m going to share them with you. Now here’s the thing. I didn’t not come upon these revelations completely by myself. I of course have Miss G who finds joy in some of the silliest things and I can’t help but smile.
My family has shown me. My friends.
Of course the amazing community here.
Happy doesn’t have to be a big extravaganza. You do have to work at though. You do. I think the fact I’m writing about finding your happy tells all of us that.
Of course there are quotes about that too.
My favorite which I’m sure I’ve shared here… “misery is easy, happiness you have to work at.”
Happy can be rediscovering how great a hot cup of coffee with milk and sugar is after months of having to limit dairy. This getting old business I tell you…
A open window after months of winter.
Singing Never Surrender by Corey Hart at the top of your lungs. Don’t ask.
A goofy dance only you and your daughter do.
Five bags of Haribo gummy candy for $5.
Your daughter still wanting goodnight hugs after she told she can tuck herself in.
Your dog leaning against you so you’ll pet him.
Reconnecting with an old friend.
An unexpected text.
Pastries of any kind.
That feeling I get when I’m swimming laps.
Sunday afternoon naps.
Dancing while you’re eating ice cream. AKA the ice cream dance. One of my favorite comedians does this thing where when she’s traveling she eats ice cream, plays music in the background and dances.
Because she’s happy and it makes me happy watching it.
My point is, it’s so easy and I know this in my bones to look around and find a reason not find your happy. It doesn’t have to be a vacation to a beach, although that would be great. It can be simple, but don’t forget yourself.
You are important Mommas.
You deserve that unexpected smile and giggle.
You deserve the happy.
You deserve to have an ice cream dance.
I’m sending you an extra smile in case you didn’t get one this week and bonus want picture me eating a taco, dancing horribly with Def Leppard Photograph playing in the background.
Ok that might make you shake your head.
Much love Mommas.