Choosing Thankfulness…Both of my children have the flu this week. Times of illness in the life of a working single parent are tough. Which parent is going to stay home with the kids? Depending on what your work entails, if you are the parent that stays home your entire day’s work may have to be cancelled, rearranged, rescheduled. Are you salaried or paid by the hour? How does your employer consider sick days for the children if you are not ill? Do you have a good coparenting relationship and can easily discuss logistics with your ex? Or is your ex antagonistic and passive aggressive?
All of these layers further complicate days of a child’s illness for a single parent.
It is easy to get caught up in the challenges of the logistics on days like this. But today I am choosing to be thankful instead. Choosing thankfulness instead of anxiety or negative thoughts. In my case I am salaried, so I am still paid when I am absent from work. My employer is extremely understanding and accommodating. So even though I have to reschedule about 10-15 appointments for every day I am absent from work, really I couldn’t ask for more from an employer. I am thankful.
My ex is of the antagonistic/passive aggressive variety, so discussing logistics for schedules can be a challenge. But today I choose to be thankful. Thankful that I am able to stay home with my sick children, that I am the parent that gets to do that. That I get to make sure they are snuggled and hydrated and feeling better. That I get to spend so much time with them. I am thankful.
I do not have any family that lives close by to help me during events like this. I have never had that. It’s easy to get caught up in the “I wish I had….” thoughts. But today I am choosing to be thankful instead. Thankful that I have good, close friends who check in on me, us to make sure we are feeling better and that we don’t need anything. Thankful again that I have a job that allows me to stay home with the kids. Thankful that I have good transportation, and the means to take care of the kids even without family closely. I am thankful.
I am thankful that I get to be mom to these two amazing, loving, talented, intelligent, funny kids. Thankful that I get to comfort them when they are ill. Thankful for my job. Thankful for a supportive community. My hope in choosing thankfulness during these challenging times is that it will help me appreciate not just the good times, but even the challenging times. Help me appreciate today and every day I am given.