Category Archives: Lifestyle

Social Media-Does It Affect You?

Let’s talk about social media today and how it can drag you down, and affect your well being and mental state, especially if you’re a single parent. Especially if YOU let it!

On the other hand social media can also inspire and motivate you, it just depends on what you are focusing on…

I personally found myself joining social media when my children became of that networking age and I said “If you do-I do” ~ only so that I could monitor their online presence. That was almost TEN years ago!

We all know that It’s really exciting to feel that connection to old friends and family members that live far away. It’s also great to enjoy sharing pictures and road trip photos, fun events, and even a simple shopping when someone posts things like  “Oh I bought a new sweater” or “Look at me in my new dress!”

As single parent THAT can really really can bring you down, especially when you know that you can’t afford those luxuries and you’re scraping just to put food on the table also wondering where your gonna get that extra  $50 to cover the electric bill that’s due in 4 days. Gotta love living that week to week life–you know the one right? When bringing your kids out to McDonald’s for the dollar value menu actually is a luxury!

People that have never lived it DON’T understand it and it’s all well and good when they want to sympathize with you and they want to give you that pat on the shoulder and say “you’re doing a great job”  and “look how beautiful your kids are” and “your kids are so well-mannered” and “you’re such a strong person!”  and sometimes those comments are helpful, however a lot of times these people have not walked through what I walked through.

They  just don’t get  it ~ the everyday exhaustion of doing everything yourself, like having to get up every night in the middle of the night and tend to your child and there’s nobody to turn to and say “can you help the baby?”  It’s so draining to say the least especially when you have to get up in the middle of the night and tend to your crying child who is all stuffed up with a nose full of boogers and you’re so exhausted and you have that deadline tomorrow and also that 8 a.m. meeting with your boss and you have to present the financials to the board of directors at a noon luncheon!  Oh boy! STRESS.

I do know those days.

You just do it, and take it one day at a time. You get up, have faith, be blessed, and be happy for what you do have -the roof over your head- the food on the table- your health – the job- the knowledge and the strength–YOU  just keep doing it– because you know you’re doing good for your children that YOU’RE raising, ALONE.

No one EXPECTS to be a single mother. Sadly, sometimes it HAS to happen for the safety and well-being of the Mother and children.

I lived those days and nights. It is hard. It is draining. It is exhausting. But  it is what it is- for your life- in the here and now, for today. You’ve just got to do it. Find the strength to face the day and keep on hoping that your positivity and gratitude shines through and lets your kids see your powerful work ethic.

YES, we do live in a material world, we do, but, you know it is changing,  this Millennial generation is ALL about Tiny houses and downsizing and clearing your clutter and de-cluttering your life and all these mantras, affirmations and positivity~ you know- be the dream,- live, laugh, and love. Do what you love, and it’s never too late to be what you might have been~ and it’s true! It’s  all true!

AS  I embrace my 50th year-  I’ve lived it- I’ve learned it- I can’t say I’ve loved it— but I’m looking at  my daughter who’s in her early 20s and she’s blossoming and turning into a determined,  independent young lady. My son is starting his sophmore year at a technical school with clear goals and a career path.  I sit back and I look at them and I think DAMN! I did that. I DID THAT! On my own, 20 plus years of my life, the struggles, and the hardships, sleepless nights  and you know the non-support and all challenges and so forth, but: little by little I chipped away at school and educating myself to enrich my career to make a better life for my kids and myself. I finally earned my Bachelor’s Degree at age 47. Never say NEVER.

Yes I am over 50 now and beginning to get forgetful and it is frustrating! So I just laugh at it and continue to say I CAN DO THIS, I’ll handle it~ keep your faith! That’s the most important thing. Keep plugging away, day by day and DON’T let those people out there in cyberville bring YOU down. Take it all in, set your goals, and watch yourself move forward and upward. YOU are women, YOU are strong. When you’re feeling “less than”  GO HUG YOUR KIDS! That certainly has got to make you feel better!

KDAWSON 3/17/18  revised 10/16/18

Make YOU a Priority!!!!!

Making yourself a priority is difficult. Most days “I don’t wanna”—it doesn’t really matter WHAT it is, I just DON’T WANNA.  This morning about two hours ago was no different…I needed to get up and work out and then I have to clean this entire house, write this blog post, clean my desk and oh yeah…LAUNDRY…freaking never-ending laundry.  So there I sat on top of my bed, drinking coffee, doing some work and thinking about how I did not want to do ANYTHING that I have to do today.  This day is pretty much like EVERY other day for the last 20 years…or more.

If I was RUN by my feelings then absolutely nothing would have been accomplished over the last 2 decades and I would likely be an epic failure…the GOOD news is that I am NOT run by my feelings, in fact they have little to do with my actions.  Apathy comes from giving into the voice that says “I don’t wanna”.  As I said last weekend in my blog, we are like our own breed of Special Forces…The Warrior Moms…we don’t have the luxury to give into “feelings”, we simply must PUSH THROUGH THE BULLSHIT and accomplish what there is to be done.

Back to me this morning…as I am sitting on my bed contemplating all the things that I have to do, a text comes in from one of my friends here and she says “I am getting ready to go walk the hills”—we often walk together as there are SO many hills around our houses and it makes for a really good cardio session.  I quickly decided that walking with her would be more fun than the elliptical so I threw on some clothes and went out to meet her…I must say, it was a little BRISK out there!  (By the way the picture is from the brook this morning down the street from my house…getting to look at that makes being cold worthwhile:)

In the course of our conversation she was telling me how she keeps putting taking care of herself last and that she cannot seem to commit to a schedule for getting her cardio done etc.  She has 4 kids and more often than not puts herself last as I know MANY of us do.  That has got to STOP.  If you go down then everything comes to a halt, so it is well worth you MAKING the time each day to take care of yourself.  Your health is not something to screw around with, trust me…I am watching some friends and family members suffer the effects of years of not taking care of their psychical well-being and their quality of life is not as good as it could be.

Watching what you put into your body and making the time to walk or workout or do yoga or pilates or SOMETHING will pay off for you in SPADES as you age…PLEASE people start making yourselves a PRIORITY.  You are a warrior and in order to keep pushing through the bullshit that comes at you daily you MUST take care of YOU!

-XO, Noelle

Ten Tips for Winning With Direct Sales

 

Many of my podcast listeners run home businesses that involve direct sales of some kind.  They work with companies like LuLaRoe, Mary Kay, Herbalife, and others. Working with an established direct sales company can be a great way to get your foot in the home business door, because you get so much more support than you would have as a solopreneur.  And the built-in name recognition doesn’t hurt either!

                However, even with those advantages, it still takes a ton of work to get your business off the ground. But that’s okay! We generally don’t value success that we don’t have to work for, so hard work is a good thing. As a young mom, I spent five years in a direct sales company, achieving the rank of vice-president. Drawing on that experience, here are my top ten tips for creating a winning home business with direct sales:

1.       Work on your mind first. To make direct sales work, you have to truly believe that you can do it, and that you will do it. I recommend starting every day with books, CDs, or podcasts that help you get in a winning frame of mind.

2.       Pick a product or service that you truly believe in, and that is backed by a reputable company with a strong financial history.

3.       Identify your ideal customer and where to find her. Guess what? Your ideal customer is NOT every friend or family member you have, and it’s not every warm body you meet. Take some time to think about who really needs and wants what you’re selling, and then think about where those people hang out (online or in real life). Then go find them!

4.       Treat your direct sales business like a business. Work on it every day. Set goals. Plan your activity.

5.       Remember that most of your friends and family will not join you in your business until they see you have some success.

6.       Market creatively. Think of new ways to connect with potential customers? Can you give out samples at a pop-up boutique? Can you get a popular blogger to give a review? Could you host a party? Could you place giveaway boxes around town to collect names and phone numbers?

7.       Be a servant-leader for your recruits. Focus more on their own success than on yours. Bend over backwards to give them leads and help them grow. You’ll be surprised the huge impact this will have on your own business.

8.       Be yourself. Don’t try to copy someone else. Post social media content in your own voice. Be authentic. Don’t lead people to believe you’re more successful than you are. It’s totally okay to say, “I’m just getting started, but I’m really excited about the direction I’m headed!”

9.       This may be #9, but take note: it’s actually the very best tip on the list: ***Learn to embrace rejection. Success in direct sales is mostly simple math. If you have to talk to 5 people to sell one product, then you can absolutely plan your success from there.*** If you want to sell 5 products per week, you know you must talk to about 25 people every week. Once you really buy into the formula, every no becomes an exciting stepping stone that’s getting you one step closer to yes.

10.   Find a mentor and be totally coachable. If your upline is successful, there’s a reason for it. Listen to what they have to say and take their advice. If your upline is struggling or new themselves, find other mentors to learn from as well.

Those are my quick and dirty tips to growing a successful direct sales business. Questions? DM me on Instagram @mightychoicelife. I’d love to hear from you.

Love ya,

Lecia

 

PS On this episode of my podcast, I interview the youngest Mary Kay Sales Director in the state of Arizona, Christina Waters. You’ll be blown away by what this young leader has to teach us!

It’s A Win!

It’s a win!

I’ll be totally honest…sometimes doing the right thing to get to your goals can literally suck the life out of you. As someone who’s had Hashimotos Thyroiditis since I was 8 years old I now struggle with more than just my thyroid because I was put on synthroid at such an early age and it has degraded my bones. A lot of people who know me know I’ve been dealing with slipped discs, degenerative disc disease, & arthritis over the past few years. Two years ago I was having to do physical therapy just to function without pain (I am very anti meds which makes a lot of doctors dislike me or see me as a problem). Plus my TSH had creeped up over 7 (higher is actually lower & it should be between a 1.5-3) even on Armor Thyroid & I wondered if I would even be normal again on an even functional level.

Fast forward two years later. I’ve gotten rid of a lot of the negative people and stressors in my life, gotten a divorce, exercise, & limit my processed food intake. I’ve also lost a lot of weight-maybe not the quick fix way that’s popular these days but it’s been a slow and steady trip and in all honestly I’m still not at my goal weight or energy level. I still struggle with being motivated to get up, get moving, & out the door some mornings I’ll admit I drink a ton of coffee to function and be cheerful on the phone. But I’m working on myself-I’m just not speedy. Hopefully I’ll be there someday.

But….I did hit a huge goal this week….I hit single digit pants sizes. It’s an 8. Progress & I’m a functioning adult taking care of my boys and able to move without pain. Ironically this wasn’t with the huge weight loss I wanted (I weigh myself twice a day) but I noticed my pants (10s & 12s) were literally falling off-so I ran out one kid free night to find some pants. It’s not perfection but I’ll take it.

~Bethany

You can follow Bethany on her blog at https://fake-it-until-you-make-it.com

Why You Should Solo Travel

Every time I mention to people that I habitually travel alone I get many interesting reactions. The most common one is how they look at me in pity. Poor me, I must have no one to travel with, how can I possibly have fun alone, and of course the meaningless next time you go somewhere Ill see if I can come with you. 


None of this could be further from the truth (well some of it is true ?). In all honesty I have gone on girl trips, family trips, and trips with significant others, and truth be told, my solo trips have been the best so far.

These are some of the top reasons why every one woman should give traveling alone a shot:

*You are in control of your whole itinerary.

Call me selfish but when I travel, especially to a location that I have never been, I want to do everything I’ve always dreamed of doing there. In my experience when one travels with other people, some compromises have to be made, unless you are traveling with your spirit animal who likes exactly everything you like. There are also budget constraints to consider, when I travel I want to enjoy to the max and budget for that. Other people may not have the same budget and you may end up not doing everything you had in mind.

*You can meet new interesting people.

A couple of year ago I went to London alone. I went to a pub and met some locals that showed me some hot spots that I wouldn’t have known about. If I had been with family, significant other, or friends that are not as outgoing like me, that would have never happened.

*You can spend some time with yourself

When I travel alone, I like to watch people, have a nice meal, a drink and soak in the environment. I recently went to Vegas with some friends and they spent lots of time walking and taking an obscene number of pictures at each hotel. I love my friends dearly, but I was thrilled to find out that they had an early flight on the last day. This last day was “my day”. I learned how to play craps, had my cocktails, and soaked in the environment and people watched.

Im honestly not saying that you should never travel with anyone again, I think everything has its place. What I am telling you is that  you should give traveling alone a shot, it is the most empowering experience you’ll ever have and it is not the pity party everyone thinks it is.

See you in the trenches,

Mythologywoman

What Are You Worth?

What Are You Worth?

It can be a little scary to tell people you are starting a business.

It can be even scarier to try to sell your business to others. To offer your product or service with genuine enthusiasm about what it can do for your customers.

But the truth is, we are all selling, all the time. Let me give you an example. Not too long ago I saw the movie I Can Only Imagine. I loved this movie so much and was totally moved by it. So, what did I do? I told everyone about it! My parents and sister were coming over for dinner the next night, and I said, “Hey, while you’re here you have to watch this movie with me, it’s so good!” And I told other people as well. And the reason I watched the movie in the first place is because my sister-in-law saw it and put her own recommendation for it on social media.

So you see? We all sell stuff, every day. When we find something we really love or are excited about, like a great new restaurant in the neighborhood, or an awesome movie, we naturally want to share it. The reason we don’t think of this as selling is because it feels so natural. It’s not forced. And, because we don’t have a vested interest in whether our friends actually try the restaurant or buy the movie, we don’t feel self-serving about it. We just know we love it and we think other people should know about it, so we tell them.

This is the kind of excitement and natural desire to share that you have to have about your own business. But in order to get there, you have to be really clear about what kind of value you are offering. In other words, what problem are you solving?

For example, let’s say that I meet somebody new, and she asks me what I do. Now, I could say, “I’m a business coach,” and she would probably say, “Oh, that’s nice,” and that would be the end of our conversation. Or, I could say, “I coach women to start and run their own businesses so they can have more freedom of time and money.” Now, the woman I’m talking to might recognize those pain points. She might be someone who never has enough time with her family or never enough money to go around, and if so, she’ll want to continue the conversation with me. Nobody cares what I do. But a lot of them care about what I can do to help them.

So get really clear about what problem your business is solving.

Now, here’s a hard fact of life. Many of you have a hard time finding the value in what you have to offer or sell because you have a hard time finding the value in yourself. And because you and your business are so closely intertwined, the whole issue of value becomes this really emotional minefield. If you don’t recognize your own value, you’re not going to be able to speak the value that you offer in your business. You will shy away from it or downplay it, saying things like, “Oh, it’s just this little thing I’m doing, it’s nothing really.”  Except, nothing you do is nothing!

So, what are you worth? What is your value?

I’ll use the $20 bill analogy to help you understand. Imagine you have two $20 bills in your purse. One of them has been around a while, and it shows. It’s crumpled and dirty. It has some pen marks on it, and one of the corners is ripped. It has obviously been passed around, it’s been mistreated, and it looks to be in pretty bad shape. The other $20 bill is the opposite. It’s crisp and clean and looks brand new.

Now let me ask you: how much is that clean, crisp $20 bill worth? $20, right? And how much is the dirty, crumpled $20 bill worth? It is also worth $20. You see, the worth of a $20 bill is constant, it doesn’t change depending on what the bill looks like or what it’s been through. It’s just $20.

And the same is true for you and me. Our worth, our value, is constant. That’s because our value does not come from what we look like, how much money we make, whether we have some dirt in our past, or anything else. Our value is based on the fact that we are.  That we are human beings, made and valued by the biggest power in the Universe. And that value is unchangeable.

So, if your business succeeds or fails on any given day; if your kids are doing great or basically flunking life; if you’re able or unable to lose the weight; if you’re weak or strong; if your website crashes in the middle of an important sale – none of that affects what you are worth. Your value is constant.

Valuing yourself is a significant part of being able to value your business. So start there. Remind yourself daily, “I am worthwhile,” or, “this setback (or mistake) does not affect my value.” Yes, it takes a little thought and maybe a little time to remind yourself of your own value, but you know what? You’re worth it.

Love ya,

Lecia

PS I’ve created a brand new FB community where all the business-minded mamas can find support and bounce ideas off each other. Come join us here and introduce yourself!

Double Standards

Double Standards…

I’m in my late 30s and I am single. I’m a great mom and I have my s**t together. I have never had much luck in the relationship department, but I do have needs. I am attractive enough to get attention, and yes, have some recreational sex sometimes. Men do it all the time, go out with friends, see a girl they like, start conversation, and after a few drinks and some making out, they end up in bed with someone. Their friends think nothing of it, they may even praise him for being such a “player”, they move on and is like nothing happened, no judgements, no consequences.

So take the same scenario, except replace the guy with a girl and all of the sudden the girl has a new name: “slut”.

Why is it that in this day and age a woman cannot satisfy her sexual desires without being given a label. I can put the blame on men, they use and dump, and then go around talking to their friends that so and so is such a slut. What I find more disheartening is that is not just men, women judge other women. Your so called “friends” with whom you share all the juicy details of your sexcapades, judge and talk behind your back. Then next thing you know you might as well start sewing a scarlet letter on all your “slutty” outfits.

Humor aside, what does it take to get rid of these double standards? I do not have the answer to this question, but I do know one thing, we as women must  stop judging and shaming each other. One’s sexual choices do not really affect anyone but oneself, and they do not change who we are as people. People have many facets, I’m still a good mom, a good friend, a good daughter, a good employee, but I also like to have steamy sex. Start by getting rid of these fake judgmental friends.

Be comfortable in your own skin and know who you are, not a slut, but a sexually liberated woman.

 

See you in the trenches,

Mythologywoman

Plan To Work, Work Your Plan

Plan to work? Let’s work your plan. Maybe you’ve decided it’s time to rock a side gig. It’s time to bring in some extra money, live with purpose and find an outlet for your gifts. Before you begin, let’s take a look at five of the key, daily habits that drive the lives of successful side-giggers.

 1. Successful side-giggers live in gratitude. It’s so easy to get caught up in what the competition is doing: to feel like everyone is winning more than you, that they have more customers than you or are making more money than you. But successful side-giggers know that comparing kills joy. Don’t get me wrong – they know their competition. They learn from them. But they never compare. Instead, they focus on being grateful for their gifts and their own unique voice.

 Cement this in your brain by having a daily gratitude practice: meditation, prayer, a gratitude journal, a nature walk, all of the above – whatever works for you.

 

2. You’ll always find successful side-giggers using the fringe hours. After all, they’re just like you and me – they spin a lot of plates. So, they use the fringe hours to keep up. Fringe hours are those little bits of time that happen early in the morning or late at night when everyone else is asleep and the house is quiet. They are intentional about this. They choose a time to get up (or stay up) that works for them and their sleep needs. Then they commit!

 Give yourself a little wiggle room on this one. Baby woke up three times last night? Scrap the early morning ideal and sleep!

 

3. This one is closely related to number two. When they do sit down to work, successful side-giggers use their time wisely. They dive right into the important stuff. Listen, we are all too busy. You might only be able to find 45 minutes to work on your business on any given day. Don’t waste that precious time checking how many new followers you have on Instagram. Instead, dig into the projects that will actually  move your business forward and generate revenue. Plan your work and then work your plan.

 

4. Successful side-giggers cut corners. Yes, you read that right! They cut corners all the time. They let perfectionism die. Unless you’re manufacturing airplanes or operating on people, good enough is usually enough.

 Now, you want to give your customers top-notch, more-than-they-expect products and service. But housework, meals, and emails to co-workers are all examples of things that don’t need to be perfect. Ever. Nobody is going to die if you serve chicken nuggets and sliced apples every other day for a while.

 

5. Finally, successful side-giggers tend to their anchor work. They don’t get so caught up in their side gig that they totally neglect their main gig. For you, your main gig might be your kids or your day job, or both. Remember to spend a little time playing with your kids. Make sure you’re doing the work you’re being paid a salary to do. You’ll sleep better at the end of the day when you’ve tended to your anchor work. There may be days you can’t work on your side gig at all. That’s okay. You just do what you can, a day at a time. 

 

Whether you’ve already started a side gig or you’re just in the thinking stages, keeping these five principles in mind will help you thrive and flourish in all your roles. You’ve got this!

 Love ya,

Lecia

 

Wanna know more about how to start your own business? Hang out with Lecia on her podcast – just search “Mighty Choice Life” on any podcast app.

Time And Money Saving Two Meal Entree For Those Back To School Nights

If you’re like me back to school time can be totally crazy, especially on nights where you have to be two places at once and don’t have time to cook or really know exactly when you will be home that night. The meat reheats great and can be easily used the next night with a quick cook microwave veggie on day 2.

What you need:

Pork Chops

Bread Crumbs

Ears of corn (we did 3)

Garlic salt or your favorite seasoning

Spring Mix

Tomato

Onion

Other Salad Toppings

Olive Oil

This meat is a deal….it’s actually 4 meals worth for us. Tonight we are using half and freezing the other half.

Preheat Oven to 400 degrees

These pork chops are huge so you will want to cut them in half…so 3 in the pack make 6 really good size pork chops. Coat them in olive oil & bread crumbs. Cook for 25-30 minutes.

Boil your corn and make your salad.

Disclaimer: My kids pretty much eat the pork chop & corn only. They will eat veggie pasta & some of the frozen microwave veggies…so that’s how we avoid fast food on night 2. Just reheat & serve.

You can see the entire recipe along with photos at https://fake-it-until-you-make-it.com/2018/08/14/two-meal-entrees/

~Bethany

You can follow Bethany on her blog at https://fake-it-until-you-make-it.com

Girl Boss

Me? A Girl Boss?

Picture a woman sitting in her cubicle at work, maybe you. Her chin rests in her hand as she stares blankly at her computer monitor. There is a thought bubble over her head. How would you fill in that thought bubble? What is she thinking?

Maybe something like, when will it be payday? Or, I can’t believe my jerk boss took the credit for my work…again. Or maybe even, somebody help me, I’m dying a slow death here.

If you’ve ever had those thoughts cross your mind (and really, who hasn’t?), then at some point you may have also thought about starting your own home business. The upside seems incredible: work within your passion, control how much you make, help people. Okay, okay – the upside is incredible.

But starting a home business also has a downside: a huge learning curve; lots of up front work for a return that comes later –  sometimes much later; setbacks; expenses. You get the idea.

That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t seriously consider starting a home business. In fact, as a business coach, I definitely think you should! We live in such a beautiful, digital age right now that the barriers to becoming a business owner are much lower than they used to be. But it’s not for everyone.

The question is, is it for you? Let’s find out with a little yes or no quiz.

 

  1. Are you extremely dissatisfied with your current situation?

You basically have to be, in order to convince your mind that it’s okay to change.

 

  1. Do you have an idea? Are you passionate about it?

It doesn’t have to be a full-fledged business plan. Not yet. But an idea does help ?. And you need to love that idea so much that you’ll be willing to do even the parts of your business that scare you (like sales calls or meeting with a potential buyer)

 

  1. Do you have support?

Family, great friends, a coach or mentor…find people who will brainstorm with you and cheerlead you when you hit a low point.

 

  1. Do you give up easily?

I don’t want to call names, but girl, if you’re a quitter, then running a home business isn’t for you. Most people quit just before the reward.

 

  1. Are you in the middle of personal upheaval?

This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t start a business, just maybe not right now.

 

  1. Do you have an appetite for learning?

Then Yassss!!! ‘Cuz you are gonna need it. Luckily, there are so many resources these days, from YouTube to FB Groups to paid courses. I don’t want you to worry for one minute if you feel like you don’t know everything you need to know to run a business, because absolutely everything is find-out-able!

 

  1. Do you understand risk?

Some business models require more risk than others. For example, opening a brick and mortar shop would require much more capital than working from home writing and selling e-books online. Be sure you know what and how much you’re willing to risk before diving in.

 

  1. Do you need cold, hard cash today?

Okay, then go make it. Sell homemade bread or salsa, walk some dogs, babysit for another mom. Then, when your immediate need has been taken care of, go ahead and start your business. Nobody needs that kind of pressure.

 

  1. Do you have people skills?

If I struck up a conversation with you in a line at the grocery store, how would you respond?

 

  1. Can you summarize your business idea in one sentence?

If not, you’re not yet totally clear on what it is you want to do. Work on it, it will come.

 

If you answered all ten of these questions correctly (and I think you know what the correct answers were!), then guess what? You definitely qualify as a potential girl boss! Don’t quit your day job just yet, but stay tuned, we’ll walk the path together. In the next installment, I’ll pass along a super helpful secret  in the form of 5 things successful side-giggers do every day.

 

Love ya,

Lecia

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