Did you know that when your child rolls their eyes…it is considered back talk? When they grunt or groan or cross their arms in thin air… it is considered back talk?
And how you respond will make all the difference in the world. Friendly Reminder: you are the parent & it cannot matter if they like you or not. You are here to raise them up to be responsible adults, so they can leave home, make something of themselves and understand the rules, rewards & consequences of life.
This starts at home… and since you’re a single mom…. you may ALWAYS be the bad guy. And that HAS to be okay with you. In your response to their backtalk, without screaming and yelling, choose your words wisely and watch what you say.
I remember one time I told my son if his bad behavior continued, we would not be going to “Mommy & Me”. He continued acting up, so we didn’t go. I was looking forward to seeing my mom-friends., so I was also punished by his consequences The next time he acted up before Mommy & Me, I said it like this…. “You will not go to Mommy & Me but instead stay home with a sitter, as I am going without you”. Oh…. he changed his tune right away on that day.
Another time he would act up is at the grocery store. If it was a day that he asked me to buy something for him & I didn’t, he might act up. Some days he would accept my “NO” & others I’d get backtalk. So I planned a mock visit to the grocery. We’re shopping, he asks for something, I say NO, he acts up, I tell him if he doesn’t stop, we’re leaving & he’s going in time out. He doesn’t stop. YUP….We leave. That was the last time he did that.
Girls… I’m telling you this so you can be two steps ahead of your kids and their backtalk. Speak to them with a firm solid voice that means what you say AND stand strong to follow-through. The message you send when you don’t follow-through will send mixed signals and they won’t trust what comes out of your mouth. Not Even I LOVE YOU.