Alone: adjective; having no one else present, exclusive of anyone or anything
Lonely: adjective; being without company, cut off from others, being solitary of mind
The difference between being alone & being lonely is:
Alone describes your physical space.
I live alone in my house.
I did my grocery shopping alone today.
Lonely describes your mental space.
I am lonely sitting on this bench.
I felt lonely at that party last night.
You can easily be alone, be at home all by yourself, separated from others and feel alive, connected and in relationship with the people in your life. You can be content with your ‘alone time’, finding things you enjoy doing, when you are by yourself. Cooking, baking, crafting, reading. You can be alone yet on the phone with a friend, FaceTime a family member or have a Zoom Meeting with your Book Club.
Just as much as you can be in a crowded room full of people to connect with, conversations to be had, people to say hello to and feel very lonely. You can be in a Study Hall full of classmates, a conference room stock piled with other colleagues or at the park with your kids and a handful of other moms and again, feel lonely.
Lonely is an inside job. Alone is an outside job.
When you’re alone, you can very easily change the situation by changing your location. You can go to the mall, library, church meeting Mom’s Group. You can ask friends over for dinner or go to the movies with a few people.
When you’re lonely though, that is an internal battle to be won. What causes your loneliness? Is it the missing of your mate, the envy of your playful neighbors, the wanting of something different? I am sure whatever it is, if you can identify it, and ….claim it, ….name it, ….look at it square in the eyes. You can find a solution. It might be uncomfortable. It might stretch you outside your comfort zone. It might require something of yourself that you haven’t done in a long time. But I know like I know. You CAN find a solution.
Good luck my friend. Lonely is not your middle name.
Your God girl