The Beautiful Mess That You Are

The Beautiful Mess That You Are. One of the most challenging things about healing and growing, is learning how to be vulnerable. Figuring out how to show people your scars, both metaphorically and literally... Where do you start? Who do you trust? How do you admit the things to another person you barely admit to yourself? Where do you even start to develop the ability to accept what has happened in your life and start ...
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Take Your Second Chances

Four years ago to almost the day, my parents took my family and my sisters family to Florida for a vacation. We had been planning it for years.. At that time in my life, I had lived my entire life as a pleaser and couldn’t disappoint any of them. I hated having that feeling I was disappointing someone. However, I already knew when we got back to glorious Wisconsin, I would be telling my husband ...
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Do As I Say, Not As I Do

Do as I say, not as I do... As the Mom of a tween girl I spend a lot of time reinforcing. Reinforcing about how she looks. How she’s doing in school. How her friends feel about her. How her crush feels about her. About who she is and who she wants to be. If I could bubble wrap the kid I would. Except that will do her no favors. I work really, really hard ...
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Tell A New Story

Organize into a new story. I can hear you now as you start to purge, declutter and organize your home… ”Oh but my son wore that when….    Oh but my daughter made that for me….  Oh but my mother, but my father, but my best friend, my teacher, me……”  or is it  “I got that at the fair… I won that for…. I bought that when…I made that….” There goes the story you keep telling ...
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The Only One I Know

The Only One I Know. In 2008, my spirit was broken when my marriage ended after almost 12 years.   Literally overnight I became the single mother of a 2.5 year old daughter, uncertain and scared about the future.  It took nearly six months to finalize our divorce and now I faced the reality of what to do with our four remaining frozen embryos. I was awarded custody of the embryos, and would soon realize the ...
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Moms Mess Up Too

Moms mess up too! I’m writing this blog moments after boiling my youngest son’s pet fish alive. Yes you read right. I, supermom extraordinaire, just accidentally filled my son’s fish tank with hot water and killed his pet fish. His first pet at that. If this had happened on any other week and any other day I think I’d be taking it in stride. But today is Wednesday, two days after the Leprechaun incident AND ...
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Pass The Tissues, Please!

Pass the tissues, please! Growing up I was quick to cry. As an adult frustration and anger can mean waterworks. I’m not sure who invented waterproof mascara but they’re my hero. It’s embarrassing how much and what makes me cry. Commercials. Certain stories on the news. Movies. TV. Pass the tissues. Honestly,I usually just have tissues stashed in a pocket. But I’m here to say… there is something to be said for a good cry.Sometimes you ...
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I Wondered..Why Me?

I Wondered..Why Me? I found myself yelling up at God.  Pointing up to the ceiling …. “YOU!  You did this!” “How could You?!” and in the next breath, with tears running down my face, “Why God, Why?”   There’s my boyfriend who had just taken his life and here I stood. Devastated. Confused. Angry. My heart ached. My tears fell. My soul hurt. And nothing made sense. I knew, like I KNEW, that God had put ...
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Divorce For Grown-Ups

Divorce for Grown-Ups: 5 Tips on Achieving Your Best New Normal None of us is immune to divorce and I’m here to prove it.  Though I was trained and practiced as a marriage and family therapist, I have had my fair share of moments where it didn’t matter.  It didn’t save me from the ick.  And I’m grateful, because those experiences have taught me the most. My ex-husband and I met in a doctoral program ...
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Conquering Pride

Conquering Pride... Hey everyone! I think I can say that it has been a long month, and that things have been crazy would be an understatement.  I think we all had our own personal battles throughout this last mercury retrograde, things slowed way down, energies were depleted and things were turned on their heads. When Retrograde hit us this hard its to make us slow down, but not to smell the flowers. We need to ...
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5 thoughts on “Blog

  1. Robbie walker

    I’m glad to see ,some of us know that stuff ain’t free. Hard work is not a give me. You learn how to appreciate what you have worked your ass off for. I’m glad there’s a few good ones left.


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