I have been thinking lately about the things that shape us, the events in our lives that have molded our behaviors and responses. My mother always says that when we reconstruct the way we hold the past then we bring alive the possibility for a new future. New futures are a good thing they allow us to be free from the same old song and they change us…change is good, it is enlivening.
When you look back on the string of events that makes up your life, do you see certain things that caused a crack in you along the way? Once you locate the ‘cracks’ you can see how everything else was colored by them in a certain sense…the first heartbreak colored every relationship after that, the first death of someone you loved, the first job experience etc, etc.
All the cracks woven in and out of everything causes a shift in behaviors and responses, so that one day when you are older and wiser you look down the road you have traveled and you can see how events of the past may still be influencing your present behaviors. You can change this, you DO NOT have to be a victim of your past hurts and defeats and disappointments. YOU can choose to reframe what happened back there and hold it as a learning experience instead of as a ‘horrible event’…it doesn’t mean that you forget it, it means that you stop allowing it to color your future. It means that you take your power back and that you decide to stop reacting to the present based on the past.
This shift in perspective has the ability to change your life in a moment.
Taking the high road is easier said than done, taking the high road means that we have to give up our grievances about other people or situations and just do what works. Our ego would rather us do otherwise, our ego would prefer that we fight and blame and create chaos instead of creating a solution…good thing we all understand that the ego is enemy of our higher self and listening to it will not take us where we wish to go. Ever.
Being the better person and coming up higher in a situation may be difficult in the moment, when the moment is over you will have created a pathway for God’s higher GOOD to occur in that person or situation and that will serve to bless YOUR life as well. This isn’t about who is ‘right’ and who or what is ‘wrong’…it is about being part of the overall solution and creating order instead of more chaos. Come up higher today, the view from the high road is much better:)
What you have right now is a product of what you have spent your attention on in the past. Whatever you give your attention to and whatever you speak is what you will manifest. Don’t be fooled into thinking that what you watch, read and talk about doesn’t matter— IT DOES. Your life will manifest itself as you lay it out in your thinking, speaking and acting.
If you don’t like what you see in front of you start changing your actions…you can’t expect to sit around and beg God to change your life when you are polluting your mind with crap and sitting around waiting for money to fall out of the sky…get up off your ass and make a change…read some affirmations, get to the gym, take a walk, help someone else, stop whining and complaining that life isn’t working out the way you wanted it to. YOU are responsible for what happens in your life, not your parents, not the government, not your ex….YOU!
Nobody is going to solve your issues except you…this is the cold, hard truth and it is also the key to setting you free from what is stopping you in your life. GOD is WAITING for YOU to DO SOMETHING!!!!! So get moving…RANGER UP, quit complaining and start being part of the solution. Now GO!
Perfection in life is a work in progress and really amounts to a series of small tweaks on a consistent basis—not an abundance of huge, earth shattering changes. Sometimes we do ourselves a disservice when we try and make monumental changes all at once. That’s a BIG job and when we fail we use it as an excuse to stay stuck and as an excuse not to change.
I’m thinking that small tweaks are really the way to go, one step at a time and when are old habits try and pull us back into the familiar patterns we just make a small tweak to get ourselves back on track.
A series of small tweaks can result in a great list of accomplishments as you keep renewing things and tweaking behaviors this way and that to get the desired results.
Within this context when you have a ‘bad day’ and your goal isn’t reached you can make some small tweaks and do better tomorrow.
The process of tweaking leaves a lot of room to improve and it supports a work in progress which is what we are.