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GOALS

Many of us have goals in our heads of things that we want to see happen. Yet they never quite make their way to paper nor do we achieve them. This weekend I am launching my new class, “The 7 Ways to Create Good Fortune” and one of the points that will be covered is setting goals and actually writing them down, working with them in an ACTIVE way, and how to reach the end result.

In preparing the materials for the class I did some research into the power of actually writing down objectives and backing them up with action plans. As a result I came across this study and it was really interesting to see the importance of writing down objectives and creating a plan.

In 1979, Harvard Business School did a study on the graduating class and their goals. Here is some of what they found.

  • 84% of the class had set no goals at all
  • 13% of the class had set written goals but had no concrete plans
  • 3% of the class had both written goals and concrete action plans

10 years later, the 13% of the class that had set and written down their targets but had not created concrete plans, were making twice as much money in comparison to the 84% of the class that had set none at all.

The 3% of the class that had both written down goals and a plan, were making TEN TIMES as much money as the rest of the 97% of the class.

The Harvard MBA Business School Study on Goal Setting

Pretty interesting, right?  I will be talking to you more about your goals. How to set them and how to make them work for you.  Start thinking about what you would like to achieve in 6 months, 1 year, 5 years. WRITE them down! This is your first step in the beginning of how to create your own personal good fortune.

 

Words Do Matter-Choose Them Wisely

WORDS MATTER

Ok guys the blog is back with The Daily Discussion….So here we go…I was just cleaning out some boxes in the basement and I came across some old correspondence.  Reading it I was moved to discuss with you that words matter.   Going through those things and seeing what was written there and then knowing how things turned out and thinking about really who was responsible for what so many years ago…

Way back there in the heat of horrible moments it was easy to blame others for what was happening, yet years later in my basement, in another state, in what feels like another of my 9 lives, I am remembering the things that I said that contributed to the actions of others.  I was told again and again “words MATTER” and I would push it off claiming that I was Italian and that my whole family would run off at the mouth in emotional outbursts and not mean anything they uttered.  That was my excuse to say horrendous things, hurtful things….really just awful things.  I treated it as no big deal, however looking back now I see how my words set-up the roadway of how it all turned out.   I believe it all transpired as it was meant to in the end, however I think that the ending would have been kinder and more civilized if my many words had not paved the road as they did.

Also looking back over my 48 years right now I can remember certain words that were said to me that stuck with me all this time.  Some of them were life-giving and some of them were quite unkind—I remember them though, I remember which people said them and where we were at the time and how they made me feel…years and years later…I remember them…

Bottom-line is WORDS MATTER, they either bring life and love or they break down and destroy, it is up to you what your words will do.  I highly recommend that we all think BEFORE we speak, that when we are really angry and reactive  we walk away for awhile, rather than speak out loud something that we cannot take back.  Once it’s out of your mouth, it’s OUT THERE…so make sure it is something that you will want someone to remember years later…

I realize we all have disagreements and differences of opinion and that isn’t what I am asking you to quell.  I am talking about when we are completely off the hook, reacting —in those moments hold your tongue, go away and calm down and then speak.  It is a far better thing.

Words DO matter, use yours wisely.

Here are some great quotes about the power of words:

https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/power-of-words

 

Daily Discussion, 9-22-16

Happy Thursday, I hope that you all had a good day thus far…I just finished a round of teaching boy to drive…NO WORDS!  Let us just say that it is REALLY hard for a control freak to not be in control in that situation…’nuf said!

I posted a video this afternoon for you, it can be found on the FB page.  In it I am talking about how what you think about, you get more of…as in what you keep focusing on is actually what you will bring to pass.  Many people seem to think that the circumstances they find themselves in are a mystery, yet if you backtrack into what they have been focused on for the last while you may start to see exactly how they ended up where they are.  You actually perpetuate unfavorable conditions by staying focused on how awful they are, when you complain about and continually discuss the things that are not working you give them more solidarity.  Your words, thoughts and attention have an immense amount of power and therefore what you focus them on gains strength in your life.

That said, when things are not working the way that you want them to you need to start focusing on the outcomes you want to see instead of on what seems to be before you.  This is no easy task, it requires you to be vigilant with your thoughts and police all the ones that are not going in the direction you want them to.  Not only do you need to catch those unfavorable thoughts, you have to REPLACE them with a positive thought or with a moment of gratitude.

I have been studying these principles since I was 12 years old and I can promise you with certainty that when they are practiced with discipline and consistency they work, hands down, every time.  Let me know in the comments or via email if you want me to elaborate on this more.  For now I will task you with beginning to pay attention to your thoughts and words and see if they are representative of the life that you want to have.

See you tomorrow. xoxo

Cheers to the ‘Broken’ People…

Broken people and by ‘broken’ I mean that you have lived through things that didn’t work out the way you intended, relationships that broke apart, people that betrayed you, let you down, disappointed you. Or you have literally lived through being broke as hell and clawed your way up out of that. Or you were faced with something that you thought you couldn’t survive and YOU DID. By ‘broken’ I mean that things broke apart, that the perfect picture in your head was shattered into a million little bits and you had to recreate it, you had to get up and go to work anyway…you had to take care of your kid or kids anyway…you had to dry your tears, swallow your anger and get back out there and play ball.

 

Cheers to us, the ‘broken’ people…because we are stronger, fiercer, wiser, smarter and more well prepared for REAL living than the people that fall down and get into bed at the first sign of trouble, the ones who cry and whine about how life isn’t fair, the people that think life is a movie with no shitty scenes—those people will have a hard time in this life, they can’t cope…when the shit hits the fan for them or the wind blows their hair out of place or someone swears at them, they come undone, they crumble, they fall down and have no strength to get up and figure it out.

 

We are not like that…we can face down the devil himself if we have to, swords drawn ready to do battle…we are the warriors…we are the people you want standing watch over your soul, we are the ones that can turn any circumstance around because we know that life is what you make of it. If you hand us lemons we will make the best damn lemonade that you ever had and we will drink it with you, celebrating all the way.

 

So STOP wondering why your life isn’t perfect, stop thinking that there is something wrong with you because stuff is happening in your life and start standing strong in who you are. Start understanding that your ‘brokenness’ means that you are stronger than you ever imagined, that you can face down any obstacle, conquer any fear. Let the perfect people have their perfect lives, we know the truth…at the first sign of trouble they are done for and then they will be seeking out the warriors to figure out how to survive.

We are stronger in the broken places, every time we were bent to the ground our roots grew stronger and now nothing can knock us down…so CHEERS to us

Tennessee This Is Where I Leave You…

In 24 days, I will end an eleven year season in the state of Tennessee. As I was packing today I felt like I was walking through time, remembering all of the events of the last 11 years here. Ending a season is always bittersweet and I think it’s good to recall the lessons learned within each season of your life. That being said, I thought I would document the lessons learned in Tennessee and share them with you.

 

Here we go…Lessons learned in the last decade:

 

  • You CAN, in fact overcome ANY THING with prayer and a change in your thinking about the circumstance or situation…and I do mean ANY THING
  • I am stronger than I thought
  • I can survive betrayal of the worst degree and not be bitter
  • I can forgive people without having to keep them in my life
  • I can pray for people that have tried to harm me
  • I can be alone and be happy
  • Being alone is better than trying to turn myself into someone I don’t know to stay with someone that I don’t belong with
  • GOD does, in fact, have everything under control
  • GOD makes ways where there are no ways
  • Trusting GOD will never, ever fail me
  • Never get involved with someone that is not free to be involved, if someone is doing something else know you are worth enough to walk away until they finish it.
  • Never start a relationship on the tail end of an old relationship
  • Don’t jump from one ending to a new beginning, take a space to heal, breathe and evaluate
  • Work hard and then work harder
  • Be yourself no matter what
  • Do not enable
  • Do not over give
  • Let people sit in their shit sometimes because that is the only way that they will learn
  • Don’t try to fix people, it won’t work
  • Watch ACTIONS, don’t listen to words and when you see red flags in the actions, freaking PAY ATTENTION
  • TRUST YOUR GUT
  • TRUST YOUR FIRST REACTIONS to people, there is a warning there, HEED it
  • If it doesn’t feel right, it isn’t—walk away
  • Don’t make excuses for dysfunctional shit just get away from it
  • Be kind to people
  • Stop complaining and realize that words matter—life and death in the power of your tongue—choose words wisely
  • Don’t settle
  • I need to listen more sometimes and talk less
  • Pay attention to people and think about how they will feel before you say or do something that effects them
  • I am not easy to help
  • Everything has a price
  • My relationship with GOD is my most important one
  • The people that really love you will never walk away from you, no matter what a shit you are
  • BE GRATEFUL

 

Really, I grew up in Tennessee, I came here at 36 for work with no family and a 3 year old son…I was scared to death yet I knew that I needed to make my way as a single mom and the opportunity was one that I felt led to take. I can remember lying in bed on nights during that first year scared as hell wondering how it would all turn out. I had lived around my family my whole life and now I was here in a new place with nobody. I just kept praying and putting one foot in front of the other and I made a whole life here, made friends that became family and it all turned into an amazing season…there were some hard parts, even some terribly devastating parts…yet looking back over the 11 years—all in all it has been an amazing time of being blessed and being able to bless so many others. I came into my own here, in Boston (my hometown) we would say that I made my bones in Tennessee.

 

Now just like GOD called me here 11 years ago, He is now calling me back to New England and so back I go in 24 days to see what this new chapter will bring.

And so Tennessee this is where I leave you…thank you for keeping me safe, thank you for teaching me that I can do more than what I thought I could, thank you for all of the people that you sent into my life here, thank you for the memories and the lessons, for the people I have loved and for the people that taught me lessons, thank you for teaching me to trust GOD more, thank you for all of it, the good, the bad and the ugly parts…you have made me what I am now and for that I am so grateful…until we meet again…

 

 

Ranger UP!

What you have right now is a product of what you have spent your attention on in the past.  Whatever you give your attention to and whatever you speak is what you will manifest. Don’t be fooled into thinking that what you watch, read and talk about doesn’t matter— IT DOES.  Your life will manifest itself as you lay it out in your thinking, speaking and acting.

If you don’t like what you see in front of you start changing your actions…you can’t expect to sit around and beg God to change your life when you are polluting your mind with crap and sitting around waiting for money to fall out of the sky…get up off your ass and make a change…read some affirmations, get to the gym, take a walk, help someone else, stop whining and complaining that life isn’t working out the way you wanted it to.  YOU are responsible for what happens in your life, not your parents, not the government, not your ex….YOU!

Nobody is going to solve your issues except you…this is the cold, hard truth and it is also the key to setting you free from what is stopping you in your life.  GOD is WAITING for YOU to DO SOMETHING!!!!!  So get moving…RANGER UP, quit complaining and start being part of the solution.  Now GO!

 

RANGER UP!  JUMP!