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The Greatest Love Story of All Time…

Good Lord…I haven’t blogged for you guys in forever, so today I thought I would remedy that.  From time to time I will dabble at writing fiction and so I thought we would restart our blogging relationship with a bedtime story for you…a story for all of you romantics at heart…I think I used to be one of those people before life got in the way…here’s to the romantics in all of us…enjoy…

The Greatest Love Story of All Time

 

…The little girl said, “Mama tell me the greatest love story of all time…”  And the Mother brushed the hair from her child’s forehead and looked into her expectant eyes, took a deep breath and began…

 

She had a beautiful spirit and the smile in her eyes could leave you weak in the knees, you could feel her before she entered the room and her energy was contagious, she was generous, intelligent and kind…she was strong where others were weak, forgiving where others were hard-hearted and had the generosity of Spirit that only comes from understanding the real meaning of life…

He was sexy, handsome and fierce, chivalrous and kind, strong beyond measure, witty, smart and charming with an engaging sense of humor…he was the kind of man you would want your daughter to marry, the kind of man every woman wants to have…

You knew when you looked at him that he really understood things and that he would protect you and keep you safe …you knew when you stood near him and breathed into him that if he loved you; your life would never be the same…

He was both sweet and hard and to drink him in was like enjoying a very fine wine…to touch him and feed his passion was like spinning into something that had no words…

So many things had come before this, so many concessions made, so much craziness and then years of near solitude…

Ever since her father left her she had pretty much made the choice that she would never be with a man that she really, really loved because it seemed that life had taught her early on if you loved someone beyond reason they would leave you…and so she had carefully constructed a life with many fine people that she loved,  however there was always that place that they could never get to and they were never smart enough to know it even existed…she found that most people don’t care to look very deeply and in a world like that even her reserved form of loving showed up as something to treasure.  Her father came back after 25 years to right old wrongs and after a couple of years that allowed her to see that loving beyond reason and without conditions was, perhaps, possible…

Her heart had been smashed, stomped on, broken into bits…her ego periodically destroyed…she knew enough now to understand what really loving someone meant, love is an endless act of forgiveness and real love is a growing up.

He, perhaps had never quite found what he was looking for…to her,  he seemed strong, savvy and fierce,  yet somewhat sad and lonely underneath …it seemed that he had been unappreciated, unseen at a soul level and that he had suffered some from that.

A man suffers more than he knows when he isn’t loved properly…he becomes somewhat hard-hearted and uncharacteristically cynical…outside things can look so very perfect, yet sometimes somewhere deep in the heart and soul of him something is missing…

She sensed that he had some broken dreams that were difficult to get over…she wished that she could love him enough to make all the bad things disappear…yet she was smart enough to know he had to banish the demons on his own, perhaps using her love as a grounding place to become stronger for the fight.

She knew that true, pure love could restore anything…the trouble these days is that people don’t love pure and true and their stupidity destroys love’s power.

Her response to him was strong, quick and pure, it was without history and reason …it just was…

Meeting him caused her to re-think each aspect of her life and she saw that in some ways parts of her had nearly faded from neglect…it was so masked that she never even noticed until she met him…but he noticed, he saw it

He saw things about her that she couldn’t even see, until she looked through him and that was when she saw the empty places…the ones she thought didn’t matter anymore…

She didn’t need him to ‘complete’ her—she wanted him to ‘compliment’ her and she him…she felt that those were the things that lasted forever, the ones where you made each other better people by being together.

At this point the little girl interrupted her Mother and said, “Mama is that true, that people can make each other better by being together?”

Her Mother answered, “Yes, little one that is true…when soul mates come together they make each other shine, they help each other to find their best parts and everyone around them benefits from this.”

After she met him everything she thought changed…she woke up missing him and thought of him throughout the day…he was so far away yet he was inside of her as if he had always been there…it seemed that he belonged there…

At first she questioned her sanity…then over the days and weeks that passed she realized that perhaps her unspoken prayer had been answered…perhaps life could be completely altered in just one single moment…she was willing for that…

The Mother paused at this point and the little girl said, “Mama what’s wrong, why have you stopped?”

 And her Mother said, “The greatest love story of all time is a work in progress my love, these two people have had some Divine Intervention and now the rest is up to them…they have to be willing and they have to trust…”

 “But Mama I need to know what happens…I need to know the end of the story.”

 Her Mother answered, “Little One the greatest love story of all time will never have an end, it is a timeless story recreated by lovers’ everyday.  It is a promise and a prayer and it is ageless and timeless…and someday you will write your own chapter.”

 The little girl sighed and smiled at her Mother, “What about them Mama, the people in this story…what happens to them, how do we know if they will be alright?”

 “He will go to her, it will take him awhile to get there, but he will go and then they will write their own chapters together…”

 “Mama, I want them to be happy, I want them to believe…”

Her Mother replied, “Then every night before you go to sleep, say a prayer for them…say a prayer that will become timeless, a prayer for lovers everywhere…pray that they have faith, that they are strong enough to face their fears and pray that they believe in the magic of God’s Grace…”

And the little girl looked at her Mother and knelt down and prayed and when she was done she knew in her heart that the lovers had heard her…

 

 

The Many Faces of Good-Bye

It takes an immense amount of courage to say good-bye to something that isn’t excellent. So many of us put up with circumstances, conditions and relationships that are not really working and there truly IS a time when it is appropriate to say good-bye so that healing can happen and new good can occur.
Yes, there is a time to stand up and fight for something, a time to make changes, a time to try new behaviors…all of that…however when enough time has passed and you feel that you have done all you can and you are still not seeing the result you require, it may just be time to say “good-bye”.
Saying good-bye to something isn’t “bad”, it isn’t “giving up”, it is having the wisdom to see that beating a dead horse is a fool hardy exercise…you exhaust yourself and the horse is still dead.
When you say good-bye you can do it with love, that is possible…you can do it with acknowledgement of contributions made, you can release and set something free with great gratitude and love and forgiveness for that things that didn’t turn out the way you wanted them to.
Granted most people say good-bye in anger or fear or guilt or some combination of those…it doesn’t need to be like that. Endings are also new beginnings where new blessings can show up, where new good can appear.
When you prune a tree it seems like a terrible thing, you cut living branches from it and it looks terrible for a while…then it starts to grow and fill out stronger than it ever was before…new life comes to it when before it looked almost dead and barren. Good-bye can be like that, it feels awful, it looks awful…times goes by and then new LIFE comes zooming in bringing with it new blessings we couldn’t see before.
So many people hang on to things that have been unworkable for so long…jobs, relationships, items, marriages etc…they hang on because they are scared to death to let go…letting GO is letting GOD…it is trusting something greater than yourself to take care of you and it is knowing that with every ending comes a new start for something not yet seen.
When appropriate have the courage to say good-bye, everything that you want could very well be on the other side of good-bye….

Cheers to the ‘Broken’ People…

Broken people and by ‘broken’ I mean that you have lived through things that didn’t work out the way you intended, relationships that broke apart, people that betrayed you, let you down, disappointed you. Or you have literally lived through being broke as hell and clawed your way up out of that. Or you were faced with something that you thought you couldn’t survive and YOU DID. By ‘broken’ I mean that things broke apart, that the perfect picture in your head was shattered into a million little bits and you had to recreate it, you had to get up and go to work anyway…you had to take care of your kid or kids anyway…you had to dry your tears, swallow your anger and get back out there and play ball.

 

Cheers to us, the ‘broken’ people…because we are stronger, fiercer, wiser, smarter and more well prepared for REAL living than the people that fall down and get into bed at the first sign of trouble, the ones who cry and whine about how life isn’t fair, the people that think life is a movie with no shitty scenes—those people will have a hard time in this life, they can’t cope…when the shit hits the fan for them or the wind blows their hair out of place or someone swears at them, they come undone, they crumble, they fall down and have no strength to get up and figure it out.

 

We are not like that…we can face down the devil himself if we have to, swords drawn ready to do battle…we are the warriors…we are the people you want standing watch over your soul, we are the ones that can turn any circumstance around because we know that life is what you make of it. If you hand us lemons we will make the best damn lemonade that you ever had and we will drink it with you, celebrating all the way.

 

So STOP wondering why your life isn’t perfect, stop thinking that there is something wrong with you because stuff is happening in your life and start standing strong in who you are. Start understanding that your ‘brokenness’ means that you are stronger than you ever imagined, that you can face down any obstacle, conquer any fear. Let the perfect people have their perfect lives, we know the truth…at the first sign of trouble they are done for and then they will be seeking out the warriors to figure out how to survive.

We are stronger in the broken places, every time we were bent to the ground our roots grew stronger and now nothing can knock us down…so CHEERS to us

Tennessee This Is Where I Leave You…

In 24 days, I will end an eleven year season in the state of Tennessee. As I was packing today I felt like I was walking through time, remembering all of the events of the last 11 years here. Ending a season is always bittersweet and I think it’s good to recall the lessons learned within each season of your life. That being said, I thought I would document the lessons learned in Tennessee and share them with you.

 

Here we go…Lessons learned in the last decade:

 

  • You CAN, in fact overcome ANY THING with prayer and a change in your thinking about the circumstance or situation…and I do mean ANY THING
  • I am stronger than I thought
  • I can survive betrayal of the worst degree and not be bitter
  • I can forgive people without having to keep them in my life
  • I can pray for people that have tried to harm me
  • I can be alone and be happy
  • Being alone is better than trying to turn myself into someone I don’t know to stay with someone that I don’t belong with
  • GOD does, in fact, have everything under control
  • GOD makes ways where there are no ways
  • Trusting GOD will never, ever fail me
  • Never get involved with someone that is not free to be involved, if someone is doing something else know you are worth enough to walk away until they finish it.
  • Never start a relationship on the tail end of an old relationship
  • Don’t jump from one ending to a new beginning, take a space to heal, breathe and evaluate
  • Work hard and then work harder
  • Be yourself no matter what
  • Do not enable
  • Do not over give
  • Let people sit in their shit sometimes because that is the only way that they will learn
  • Don’t try to fix people, it won’t work
  • Watch ACTIONS, don’t listen to words and when you see red flags in the actions, freaking PAY ATTENTION
  • TRUST YOUR GUT
  • TRUST YOUR FIRST REACTIONS to people, there is a warning there, HEED it
  • If it doesn’t feel right, it isn’t—walk away
  • Don’t make excuses for dysfunctional shit just get away from it
  • Be kind to people
  • Stop complaining and realize that words matter—life and death in the power of your tongue—choose words wisely
  • Don’t settle
  • I need to listen more sometimes and talk less
  • Pay attention to people and think about how they will feel before you say or do something that effects them
  • I am not easy to help
  • Everything has a price
  • My relationship with GOD is my most important one
  • The people that really love you will never walk away from you, no matter what a shit you are
  • BE GRATEFUL

 

Really, I grew up in Tennessee, I came here at 36 for work with no family and a 3 year old son…I was scared to death yet I knew that I needed to make my way as a single mom and the opportunity was one that I felt led to take. I can remember lying in bed on nights during that first year scared as hell wondering how it would all turn out. I had lived around my family my whole life and now I was here in a new place with nobody. I just kept praying and putting one foot in front of the other and I made a whole life here, made friends that became family and it all turned into an amazing season…there were some hard parts, even some terribly devastating parts…yet looking back over the 11 years—all in all it has been an amazing time of being blessed and being able to bless so many others. I came into my own here, in Boston (my hometown) we would say that I made my bones in Tennessee.

 

Now just like GOD called me here 11 years ago, He is now calling me back to New England and so back I go in 24 days to see what this new chapter will bring.

And so Tennessee this is where I leave you…thank you for keeping me safe, thank you for teaching me that I can do more than what I thought I could, thank you for all of the people that you sent into my life here, thank you for the memories and the lessons, for the people I have loved and for the people that taught me lessons, thank you for teaching me to trust GOD more, thank you for all of it, the good, the bad and the ugly parts…you have made me what I am now and for that I am so grateful…until we meet again…

 

 

Some Life Advice …on Easter Sunday

Easter Sunday, a time for new beginnings and new seasons. Time to shed the things that aren’t working and start living the life that you want to live, doing that often means taking stock of how things have been and making adjustments as needed. Spring and Easter are excellent times to do this, so late last night I penned some life advice for myself and it seemed prudent to share it with you. Enjoy.
Life Advice after 46 years…

• Make sure that you feel ‘at home’ in your own home. This is your place of grounding and peace, if you can’t restore yourself there then everything else will be out of balance
• Keep things in order, houses, desks, closets, cars, papers, etc. Disorder brings disjointed states of mind…it is difficult to operate in excellence with disorder surrounding you
• Get rid of stuff that doesn’t serve you—relationships, items, whatever isn’t serving you is stealing your energy and holding you back (whether you want to admit it or not)
• Try new things…always
• Don’t worry so much about whether or not you are doing things ‘right’—life is a process…make adjustments as you go
• Be smart, read, learn…never stop learning
• Be funny and don’t be mean
• Don’t complain, criticize or make fun of…you get what you give
• Put away money for a rainy day
• Have FUN with your life, we only do this here once, make the most of it
• Cultivate your “REAL” friends, let the superficial bullshit go—it just wastes time
• Enjoy your own company
• LIVE—stop waiting for your ‘real’ life to begin, these moments right NOW—these ARE your life—so LIVE them OUT LOUD
• Feel your feelings and express them responsibly
• Respond, don’t react
• Remember your words have power, use them to help not hurt
• Tell the TRUTH—always—NO EXCEPTIONS
• See yourself as others see you and be mindful of how you treat people and remember karma never loses an address
• Be READY for whatever comes, always have a plan B, maybe C and D too
• Expect the BEST, you deserve that
• Remember that nothing is too good to be true, if you do the work you deserve the reward because you EARNED it
• Don’t enable people, let them learn like you have
• Keep your peace—no HIGH highs, no LOW lows—leaders are STABLE people, they keep their JOY in all things and they keep going
• Keep moving forward, don’t look back—you are not going that way
• Be aware of your blind spots, we all have them. Work on them and don’t let them trip you up—pay attention
• Don’t ignore the obvious just because you don’t like it, if it is being revealed to you then there is a reason—something there for you to see
• If you have children PARENT THEM, discipline them, teach them to produce results, teach them that actions have consequences. Kids don’t need you to be their friends—they need you to be their PARENTS—you are putting people out into the world, so make sure that they are ready.
• Be of service, help others.
• Leave things better than you found them
• If someone shows you a behavior, BELIEVE IT! Actions will tell you everything you need to know about someone. Words are just lip service.
• Don’t overthink. When in doubt, go with your gut. Period.
• If it doesn’t feel right to you, it ISN’T—-so don’t do it. Period.
• TRUST yourself.
• LOVE yourself
• Make peace with your past
• Forgive, not for them, for YOU
• Welcome your future
• Do your best
• And above all—TRUST GOD—ALWAYS—NO EXCEPTIONS!

AVOID AVARICE

“For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows. But thou, O man of God, flee these things; and follow after righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience, meekness. Fight the good fight of faith…”
-1 Timothy 6:10-12

 
“Avarice has ruined more souls than extravagance.”
-Charles Caleb Colton

 
Avarice or greed is one of the deadly sins and something to be avoided. We have seen more evil come from greed than we would care to admit, not only in public places but in private ones too. Greed can rip apart families and relationships like nothing else. It can also destroy companies and countries.
Greed comes from putting our trust in something other than God for our supply. If we understand God is the source of our supply, then we know we will always be provided for and taken care of. This truth leaves us nothing to fear.
Fear of poverty generates greed, which causes people to act in ways that are not commendable. When people are at effect of fear, they are allowing themselves to be controlled by something dark. They are buying into ideas of lack and limitation, and those thoughts are not God generated ones. Any thought that frightens you did not come from God; it is impossible for any negative idea to come from the Divine.
Allowing fear to run us is never advisable. Fear causes us to react instead of respond, and that means that we are not thinking through all the consequences of our actions.

This is how people end up doing stupid things like stealing, lying, and cheating to get ahead and putting love of money before everything else. Money isn’t the issue; lots of money can be a wonderful even spiritual thing if you are using it for good. LOVE OF MONEY is the problem and the sin. Worshipping money and forsaking all else for its sake is making something material more important than God, it is having a false idol.
Is your fear of poverty or lack controlling you today? Have you given that limitation thinking power over you? Are you forgetting that God is the source of your supply, not your job, not the government, not other people –GOD! God provides never ending substance to sustain us, sometimes we have abundance and at times we receive our manna day by day. However, it always comes and we are always taken care of. Remember that your negative thoughts and your greed will keep God’s supply from flowing to you. To change your circumstances, change your thoughts. Stop being fearful and hoarding and start giving and trusting God. Now.